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Sample Ceremonies

 

Here is a small selection of our prepared ceremonies. More to follow.

 

The Hands Ceremony

A Handfasting Ceremony

Kevin & Ken's Wedding

 

Kevin and Ken's wedding
July 26th, 2003

 

Family and friends, my name is Lori Siska and I have the privilege of performing this marriage ceremony today. On behalf of Kevin and Ken we welcome and thank you for being here. They are thrilled that you are here today to share in their joy during this wonderful moment in their lives.

Now, I would please ask everyone to stand as we begin this special ceremony.

 

Music: CD.

 

LORI: Family and Friends, Ken and Kevin have invited us here today to share in the celebration of their marriage - their true commitment ceremony. Only a few weeks ago they were planning a commitment ceremony but now it is truly their wedding day and for that we all rejoice.

We come together not to mark the start of a relationship, but to recognize a bond that already exists. This marriage is one expression of the many varieties of love. Love is one, though its expressions are infinite.

 

It is fitting to speak briefly about love. We live in a world of joy and fear and search for meaning and strength in the seeming disorder. We discover the truest guideline to our quest when we realize love in all its magnitudes. Love is the eternal force of life. Love is the force that allows us to face fear and uncertainty with courage.

 

But, you must "be of love a little more careful than of anything." For the giving of yourself in love is difficult, for you must learn to give of your love without total submission of yourself. Therefore, in your giving, give your joy, your sadness, your interest, your understanding, your knowledge - all expressions that make up life. But in this giving, remember to preserve yourself - your integrity, your individuality. This is the challenge of love within marriage.

 

Now we will have a reading by Kevin's father.

 

A good marriage must be created. In marriage, the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands; it is remembering to say, "I love you," at least once a day; it is never going to sleep angry; it is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives; it is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family; it is speaking of appreciation, and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways; it is having the capacity to forgive and forget; it is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

 

Our second reading that expresses the sense of joy and love on this occasion. It is called "To My Friend" and it will be ready by Ken's sister.

I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me good, and more than any fate could have done to make me happy. You have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign. You have done it by being yourself. Perhaps that is what being a friend means, after all.

 

Lori: Ken, will you take Kevin as your partner for life? In the presence of this warm circle of family and friends, do you pledge to love, comfort and respect him? Will you respect his ideas, values and convictions and support him in times of wealth and times of need? Will you foster his individuality while committing to grow, love and advance together in faith, honesty and determination?

 

KEN: I will

 

Kevin, will you take Ken as your partner for life? In the presence of his warm circle of family and friends, do you pledge to love, comfort and respect him? Will you respect his ideas, values and convictions and support him in times of wealth and times of need? Will you foster his individuality while committing to grow, love and advance together in faith, honesty and determination?

 

Kevin: I will

 

Do both of you promise to make the necessary adjustments in your personal lives in order that you may live in a harmonious relationship together?

 

Both: We do

 

Ken and Kevin have asked their dear friend Judy to read a poem called "I Knew That I Had Been Touched By Love (author unknown)"

I knew that I had been touched by love
the first time I saw you,
and I felt your warmth,
and I heard your laughter.
I knew that I had been touched by love
when I was hurting from something that happened,
and you came along and made the hurt go away.
I knew that I had been touched by love
when I quit making plans with my friends,
and started dreaming dreams with you.
I knew that I had been touched by love
when suddenly I stopped thinking in terms of 'me',
and started thinking in terms of 'we'.
I knew that I had been touched by love when suddenly
I couldn't make decisions by myself anymore,
and I had the strong desire to share everything with you.
I knew that I had been touched by love
the first time we spent alone together,
and I knew I wanted to stay with you forever
because I had never felt this touched by love.

 

Ken and Kevin, now we come to your vows. May I remind you that saying your vows is one thing but nothing is more challenging than living them day by day. What you promise today must be renewed tomorrow and each day that stretches out before you. Will you now please turn and face each other, holding hands, looking into each others' eyes and hearts while reciting your vows.

 

Ken: Kevin, we have been together now for nearly six years and what an incredible six years it has been. Each and ever day is filled with laughter, love and excitement as to where we will go next. As I go to sleep every night I think about how lucky I am to have met you and to be with you here today.

 

You are the most amazing person I have ever met, beautiful both inside and out and I love you with all of my heart and soul. I thank you for all of the incredible memories and I look forward to building a lifetime of memories with you. The time I spend with you is more important to me than anything else in this world and I treasure every minute of it. Kevin, I am so excited to spend the rest of my life with you. Today in front of the people that we cherish so much, I promise to be there for you every step of the way through both good times and bad. To love and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, to support and encourage you and to grow and dream with you. I give you my heart and soul and trust you to continue to overlook my flaws as we enter into a new chapter of our lives. I love you with all of my heart and soul today and forever.

 

Kevin: Ken, I love you with all my heart! Five and a half years ago I became enchanted by an extremely handsome and captivating man, a new friend - it was you. I entered an awesome journey filled with much laughter and the most genuine love. Today, this journey has entered a new chapter. In front of our wonderful and supportive family and friends, I am marrying you. You are truly a beautiful and special man - my best friend. Ken, you have taught me so much about myself. Today, I commit myself to you, I promise to encourage and inspire you, to laugh with daily, and to comfort you in times of sorrow and struggle. I promise to love you in good times and bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard. I cherish the times we've spent together and I look forward to our journey ahead knowing we will walk it together side by side, hand in hand and heart to heart. You are the love of my life. I will love you forever. Ken, I love you.

 

Lori: May I have the rings please.

 

From the earliest times, the circle has been a symbol of completeness, a symbol of committed love. An unbroken and never ending circle symbolizes a commitment of love that is also never ending. As often as either of you looks at this symbol, I hope that you will be reminded of the commitment to love each other, which you have made today. Will each of you repeat after me;

 

Ken: I, Ken, give to you Kevin this ring.as a symbol of my commitment. to love, honour and respect you.

 

Kevin: I, Kevin, give to you Ken, this ring.as a symbol of my commitment.to love, honour and respect you.

 

This is a moment of celebration. Let this also be a moment of dedication. The world does a good job of reminding us how fragile we are. Individuals are fragile; relationships are fragile too. Every marriage needs the love, nurture and support of a network of family and friends. On this wedding day I ask you not only to be friends of Ken or Kevin but friends of Ken and Kevin together, friends of the relationship.

 

So let us have a moment of silence that follows and I ask each of you, in your own way, to confer a silent prayer, blessing, wish or hope upon this wedding.

 

Moment of silence..

 

Lori: Kevin and Ken, we have heard your promise to share your lives in marriage. We recognize and respect the covenant of marriage you have made here this day before each one of us as witnesses. Therefore in the honesty and sincerity of what you have said and done here today it is my honour and delight to declare you henceforth to be partners in life. You may now seal your vows with a kiss.

 

Signing of the Register - music. Once John and Rick have signed the register, they will return to the audience but first they will position the cloth/blubs on the ground where you will finally stand again.

 

*Use Sylvania light bulbs, hidden within white napkins. I am thinking perhaps they should be lain down together under another thin cloth, apart enough for you to stomp on them at the same time. Make sure to alert your photographer that this will happen.

 

Ken and Kevin will resume their original positions and I will say:

 

Please join me in reciting the Apache Wedding Poem the couple have provided for each and everyone of you today.

 

Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter to the other. Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there will be no loneliness, for each of you will be a companion to the other.

 

Now you are two bodies, but there is only one life before you and one home.
When evening falls you'll each look up and there the other will be.
You'll take each others hands and turn together
to look at the road you travelled to reach this
- the hour of your happiness.

 

It stretches behind you as the future lies ahead.
A long and winding road, whose every turn means discovery.
Old hopes, new laughter, shared fears.
The adventure has just begin.

Just before we let these two go into their new married lives together, they will partake in an old rite. The breaking of the glass, at the end of a wedding ceremony serves to remind us of two very important aspects of a marriage. One is that it can be a warning of the fragility of marriage. The other is that all of us should consider these marriage vows as an irrevocable act just as permanent and final as the breaking of this glass is unchangeable.

 

STOMP AND BREAK GLASS

 

LORI: Family and Friends, it is my personal privilege and a great joy to be the first one to introduce to you Ken and Kevin. Please stand to greet them warmly as they approach you.

 

Cue music and clap hands!