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Sample Ceremonies

 

Here is a small selection of our prepared ceremonies. More to follow.

 

The Hands Ceremony

A Handfasting Ceremony

Kevin & Ken's Wedding

 

July 2002 A Handfasting Ceremony

Welcome to [Brides/Grooms name] family. My name is Lori Siska and I am really honored to be here today at this beautiful location under this tree - isn't it the perfect setting for what is about to happen? They have put together this ceremony and I am sure you will see it is as personal and sincere as the two of them are.

 

[Brides/Grooms name] know now before you seek to go any further, that since the two of you have met your lives have become intertwined. As you seek to enter this state of matrimony, you should strive to make real the ideals that give meaning to both this ceremony and the institution of marriage.

With full awareness, know that within this place you are not only declaring your intent to be joined forever before your friends and family but that you also speak that intent to a higher power.

The promises that you make and the ties that are bound here today will not only strengthen your bond but they will transcend all time and affect the lives of both you and those whom you love.

 

Do you still seek to proceed?

 

Couple : I do

 

Lori: I bid you hold each other's hand.


Know now that there will be times where you will cause each other pain. It is in the very inevitability of life that there will be good times and bad, pleasure and pain. Will you take the heat of anger and use it to temper the strength of your union? Will you share each other's pain and seek to ease it?

 

Couple: I will

 

Lori: And so the first binding is made. (daughter to place cord across the couple's hands)

 

Lori: Know now that there will be times when there is too much to do and not enough time to finish it. Where duty will weigh you down and everything seems a chore. Will you seek out the laughter and joy in each other? Will you seek to ease each other's burdens? Will you share the joy of a loving hug, the beauty of a loving smile?

 

Couple: I will

 

Lori: And so the second binding is made. (daughter to place cord across the couple's hands)

 

Lori: Know now that there will be times when life will seem to be a burden and you will burden the other with your sorrows and tribulations. Will you not only share these burdens but also seek to share the burdens of the other so that your spirits may grow in this union?

 

Couple: I will

 

Lori: And so the third binding is made. (daughter to place cord across the couple's hands)

 

Lori: Know now that there will be times when the burdens are not great, when the work needing to be done will not seem too much. Will you take this time, not for selfish reasons, but take this time to create new realities and hopes...to dream and to love...to love and be loved?

 

Couple: I will

 

Lori: And so the fourth binding is made. (daughter to place cord across the couple's hands)

 

Lori: Know now that there will be times when temptation might come. Will you seek to not only love but to be IN love, to remember this moment and what brought you to this place? Will you honour your other half and seek to never give cause to break that honour?

 

Couple: I will

 

Lori: And so the fifth binding is made. (daughter to place cord across the couple's hands. Lori to tie cords in a knot in the middle.)

 

Lori: Know now that the knot in these cords show the union of two separate souls into one. Two lives into one. Two hearts into one.

 

Know now that the knot in your binding are not formed by these cords but instead by your vows. This binding is not of physical making but is made by you. You hold within you the breaking as well as the making of this union. Never forget the vows you have made today.

 

(Groom to hand the cord to daughter to hold. [Brides/Grooms name] to look at each other and hold each other's hands)

 

Lori: Now I will read a passage from The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran that they have chosen.

Then Almitra spoke again and said, And what of Marriage, Master?

 

And he answered saying:

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

 

(Lori to Groom): Do you have the ring? Daughter will untie ring from holder

 

Groom: Yes (takes out the ring and place in on Bride's finger and hold onto it while speaking his own vow)

 

(Lori to Bride): Do you have the ring?

 

Bride: Yes (takes out the ring and place in on Groom's finger and hold onto it while speaking her own vow)

 

Lori to say to all: You now see before you not only two but three lives (look to daughter) joined into one. You may now kiss your bride.

 

Lori: To All I have the pleasure of introducing you to Mr. and Mrs. .......